Coworker-
Hi Jackie this is my birthday gift to you. I forgive all debts that you
owe me. I erase any obligations that you may feel towards me. I dissolve
the need for you to feel an obligation to be my friend. I realized
quite slowly that you have been faking it for months due to feeling an
obligation to be my friend. I have removed you from facebook and have
taken your number out of my phone. I will not be calling you anymore or
asking you to go anywhere with me. I feel this is the best gift I can
give you.
Me-
I know you may not even read this, but I am going to say my say anyway.
Since you chose such a cold act to make your point, writing to me via facebook instead of talking to my face. I am going to be blunt as I always am. I find it completely childish that you go about dealing with any issues we may come across by shutting me out, ignoring me, and now, when I never could think you could stoop so low, you completely cut off our friendship through facebook.
Why did I deserve it, I find myself asking? Oh, yeah, I forgot to call you back. I am a horrible friend. Sue me. I'm sorry I have a boyfriend that takes up so much of my time. I'm sorry I can't bend my schedule to fit YOUR needs. I'm sorry that when i post up asking if anyone wants to hang out or go to Disneyland that I'm not psychic and assume want to go. Gods! Why don't you ever let me know instead of HOPING I will ask you? I've told you countless times to tell me instead of beating around the bush. You immediately jump to conclusions every time I don't get back to you right away because your sooooo damn insecure. "Jackie doesn't like me. She doesn't want me around. She's ignoring me again." Hello!!! I do it to everyone. Don't feel so special like I do this to only you. I do it to everyone. I'm infamous for not answering the phone. I would say some cruel things in anger, but I won't stoop so low. I don't feel any obligation to you. If ever there was any suspect of my need of space from you is because every time you want to do anything and I am unable to do as you please, you ignore me like a child instead of facing the issue like a grown up.
I give some kudos for letting me know your feelings this time, but I am disappointed you didn't have the courage to say it to my face. I am not surprised you didn't though. It only fits your pattern of behavior.
I will NOT change for you or ANYONE else for that matter. I treat you no different than I do anyone else. I hate the phone, I hate answering the phone. I get a lot of crap from everyone for it and know its something I SHOULD change, but like you can't change your childish behavior, don't expect me to change mine. Grow to except the things you don't like about me, which I do with you all the time. Its why I end up coming to you to solve our differences every time instead of you coming to me.
Its nice to know that even when you were telling me not to worry about it because its what friends do, you were going to hold my debts to you over my head anyway though.
I hope you and your new girlfriend the best of luck and hope you have a happy life.
- Jackie
P.S. If I can ask only one gift from you it would only be to treat me like a human being and not a piece of trash after all this. Last thing I want is this to make work for you or I unmanageable. I can just see you glaring at me or turning your face away when I am around....especially on Tuesdays. Sulking like you do and saying nasty things behind my back. I know you will do this because you don't feel I deserve any favors from you, but its worth a shot and I did believe we had/have a good friendship in the now past.
